My best tools
My story is in my book Sugarbomb 3.0 which I plan to translate during 2019. I like to share some things briefly here. My favourite tool’s are the community with other recovering sugaraddicts. There are several supportgroups today so make sure you join one or more. It is uttermost important to talk to another recovering human, to share the struggles and to ask for help. The way I prefer to do is to ask several of my friends “how would you do if this was your problem” and the other person answering “ if this was my problem I would .. In this way we learn so much. There is seldom one way to meet our challenges.
Another important tool for me, besides food, which today is medicine and fuel, is my breathing. I learned some years ago thru Anders Olsson, see www.consciousbreathing.com that not only was I a “overbreather” ( as well as overeating, overstressing, overdoing) and my test scores were horrible. My sleep was deprived due to snoring so I immediately sent for the book, sleep tape and relaxator and started to do the exercise from the book, my testimonial of that HERE https://www.consciousbreathing.com/testimonials/bitten-jonsson/
This is some years ago but I never go to bed without taping my mouth and I use my relaxator every day.
Another important tool is my dog and nature. I feel that being in nature most every day gives me a tremendous amount of relaxation and energy. And last but not least, my dog Edgar, the BorderTerrier. Pet’s are remarkable in helping us increase oxytocin levels which is the most important “calming” neurotransmitter. More on ocytocin here,
//www.kerstinuvnasmoberg.com/. I am very grateful to know Dr Uvnäs-Moberg and talk to her about the importance of oxytocin for our wellbeing.
I am a big fan of Cesar Millan, the dogwhisperer and his book Packleader.. gives me tools to be a packleader for my self especially my Red Dog, the nickname for the addictive part of my brain. Many years ago while doing training in relapseprevention with Terense Gorski //www.tgorski.com/ ( love his book Staying Sober, just trade the word “alcohol” for sugar ) I meet one of his teachers telling the story of the Red and Blue dog based on the following story about the Black and White wolf.
“A group of Cherokee children has gathered around their grandfather. They are filled with excitement and curiosity. That day there had been a quite tumultuous conflict between two adults and their grandfather was called to mediate. The children are eager to hear what he has to say about it.
One of the children pops the question that puzzles him. “Grandfather, why do people fight?”. “Well” the old man replies “we all have two wolves inside us, you see. They are in our chest. And these wolves are constantly fighting each other”. The eyes of the children have grown big by now. “In our chests too, grandfather?” asks another child. “And in your chest too?” asks a third one. He nods, “yes, in my chest too”. He surely has their attention now. Grandfather continues. “There is a white wolf and a black wolf. The black wolf is filled with fear, anger, envy, jealousy, greed, and arrogance. The white wolf is filled with peace, love, hope, courage, humility, compassion, and faith. They battle constantly”. Then he stops. It’s the child that asked the initial question that can’t handle the tension anymore. “But grandfather, which wolf wins?”. The old Cherokee simply replies, “the one that we feed”.
I try every day to “feed” my Blue Dog (White Wolf ) and ignore my Red Dog (Black Wolf)
Live softly out there, one day at a time